In a world where our every move often feels scrutinized, it’s essential to create a haven of positivity and affirmation for our children. Building their confidence starts with the words we choose and the encouragement we provide. As a mom of three, there are specific phrases I’ve found that have made such an impact on how my kids react to the world around them. Here are 3 things to say to your kids everyday to build confidence that will last well beyond childhood:

1. “I know you can do it.”

Encouraging your child by expressing confidence in their abilities is a powerful way to boost their self-esteem. Whether they are tackling a challenging homework assignment, learning a new skill, or facing a difficult situation, affirming your belief in their capabilities can make a significant impact. This phrase not only instills confidence but also teaches the value of self-belief and determination.

This phrase is incredibly helpful when your child starts doubting their ability to accomplish something. When they hear it enough, that you believe in them, something beautiful happens – they start to believe in themselves. My 2 year old son will say to himself, “I know I can do this” when trying something new or challenging. I just love how the words we speak over our kids can become their inner voice. So let’s choose wisely what we are saying to them.

2. “What do you think?”

Fostering independent thinking is crucial for a child’s development. Asking them for their opinion communicates that their thoughts and ideas are valuable. This simple question opens the door for communication, critical thinking, and problem-solving skills. It empowers them to express themselves, fostering a sense of autonomy and confidence in their ability to contribute meaningfully to discussions and decisions.

We have to value our kids’ opinions if we want them to be active members in the family. Let them help come up with solutions! And when they have a question – ask their opinion first. A lot of times they know the answer, but some of our “perfectionist” kids don’t want to risk being wrong so they’d rather ask us for help.

3. “I love you.”

While it may seem obvious, the phrase “I love you” holds immeasurable significance in a child’s life. Some of us may not have grown up in homes where these words were spoken daily. However, research consistently shows that regular expressions of love contribute to a child’s emotional well-being. Saying “I love you” daily, not only during moments of joy but especially during challenging times, creates a secure and loving foundation. It reassures your child that your love is unwavering, fostering a sense of belonging and self-worth.

What a blessing to grow up in a home where your parents’ love is never questioned. Isn’t this the ultimate goal as a parent? That our kids will know that our love for them is unconditional.

In a world where criticism often feels constant, our homes should be a sanctuary of encouragement and affirmation for our children. By incorporating these three simple phrases into our daily interactions, we can actively contribute to building our children’s confidence. Let’s empower them to face challenges, think independently, and navigate the complexities of life with the unwavering knowledge that they are loved and capable. In doing so, we create a foundation for their future success and happiness. And create a strong family unit while doing so.